Random Venting

I have had two difficult babies. They take a week and not sleep at all during the day and then finally sleep at night. It comes in spurts, but it is emotionally draining to deal with. Everyone says to sleep when the baby sleeps, but how do you do that when your baby doesn't really sleep? On top of that I feel like I'm surrounded by rude people who have had easy babies. Having easy babies is fine, but please, let's not try to make me feel like there is something wrong with my mothering because mine are hard. Please? So, I'd thought I'd post what not to say: (kinda like what not to wear, but not really)

• The "nice" lady who opened the door for me at church said this as I entered with a screaming baby, " Whew. I'm glad I'm not in nursery today." I just looked at her and walked off, but wanted to say, "I'm sure am glad you aren't in nursery either."
• A friend who asked how the baby was and probably really didn't want to know (please don't ask if you don't want to know. I'm tired and don't really want to talk about it. I know it is getting better and will continue to do so.) "I have a hard time believing that your child doesn't really nap." I actually said,"Well, he doesn't really take naps." What I wanted to say was, "People with easy children usually do have a hard time comprehending. THAT is what makes colic so hard because you know they need to sleep, but you. can't. make. children. sleep."
• Another random comment was, "It must have been something you ate during pregnancy." Nope. I'm pretty sure that I ate healthy.

On another note there has been some overwhelming kindness shown to me.

• One little old man gave up a table outside because I was letting the toddler run around and had the baby in a sling waiting for a table. Such a gentleman. He was so kind.
• Another little lady insisted on seeing my children while I was walking around my grandmother's assisted living and proclaiming them adorable even when the baby was crying. God bless her.
• Finally the husband has been filling up my water bottle with cold ice and putting it in the fridge so he can run out and get it for me in the middle of the night when the baby is nursing. It makes such a difference emotionally just having someone helping you in the middle of the night.

So, I guess the overwhelming kindness cancels out all the bad things and gives me a better perspective. So here are the positive things. The baby is only getting up once in the middle of the night and then early morning, about 6-7 hours after his evening feed, and going straight back to sleep both times. I guess he can just handle learning one sleep cycle at a time. This is a similar pattern with the toddler and he got to where we could put him down at 6:30pm and he would sleep until 6:30 am so I have something to look forward to. The night sleep is coming together. Then he learned a morning nap by 6 months and had the afternoon nap down by 9 months. If this is the trend then, just a couple of more months and it will be close to sleep heaven!